Monday: Not Forgotten
It’s our nature to forget. The past is a bit like a picture that sits in the sun—freshly printed and illuminated by the sun’s rays, you’ll be able to see the colors and shapes in the photo pretty clearly. But like the pictures in our mind of days gone by, the photo will fade over time.
These snapshots we take all throughout our lives can sometimes be restored or recalled. A song can remind you of the time you first heard it or a smell will bring back memories of holidays from years ago. However, even these memories are somewhat washed out. A memory can remind us of a loved one who has passed, but it can’t bring them to us. A memory won’t let you wrap five senses around someone.
Pictures have come a long way. We don’t have to worry anymore about them fading—even if you leave your phone or thumb drive in the sun too long. While these digital advances can preserve a photo, they can’t preserve the memory. You might even find an old photo and wonder to yourself, “I know I took this photo, but I can’t remember when or why or who the people are in it.”
We’re forgetful people; no doubt. That’s probably why we often fear others are forgetting us—because we forget them! From time to time, we all feel forgotten in some way, but the Lord is teaching our group something very important this week: He has not forgotten anyone.
What We Learned
After breakfast each morning, the staff here lead us through some training called trauma competent care. This training is meant to help us understand the behaviors of children who have suffered significant trauma in the early years of their lives. It’s really important that teams get this background before heading out to interact with the kids at Rancho.
We learned there are two kinds of trauma: abuse and neglect. The instructor asked the group which they thought was worse, and you might be surprised to find out that neglect has a greater negative impact on a child than abuse. Because each person has been wired for relationship, there is no greater need they have than connection.
There is nothing as damaging to a child (or any person) as being forgotten.
What We Did
Our schedule Monday through Wednesday will go mostly unchanged. We have breakfast, get some training, and then head out to Rancho. We spend the morning working hard on construction projects, and in the afternoon, we spend time with the kids before packing up and heading back to the team house for dinner, worship, and debrief.
Here are a few shots of the team hard at work:
In the first you see us filling and leveling the bottom of a large hole. This hole will eventually be a trampoline for the kids to jump on. Because of the many varieties of physical disabilities, the hole allows the trampoline to sit at ground level. This way the kids don’t have to struggle to climb up in.
The second photo shows team members staining boards that will be made into custom designed picnic tables. The custom design will allow the children with wheelchairs to wheel right up to the table. In fact, one of our group members commented in our debrief how diligent the men building the tables were about getting the exact specifications to make this possible. No detail is overlooked (or forgotten) when it comes to caring for these kids.
Isaiah 49:15 says: “Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you.”
Sadly, people forget each other. We neglect the needs of our closest friends and family. Maybe you find yourself in that place today. Do you feel alone or forgotten? Do you feel like God has left you wandering on your own?
I hope you are encouraged by the fact that God is going to great lengths to show his love to the kids at Rancho—he hasn’t forgotten them, and he hasn’t forgotten you!